Is this true for you? I think it is for me at times. As much as I want to be focused just on giving and glorifying God, I can keep tabs on whether the relationship is equal. However, I believe we're not made to hold others to our own expectations. We're not even made to hold ourselves to that standard. We're made to measure ourselves and others according to the standards set in the Bible for us, and while that wouldn't eliminate conflict, as truth in love would still apply, it would eliminate that "what about me" feeling.